No matter how desperate your situation may look or unfavorable of getting away from your abuser you have to make that first step forward. No one will swoop in like on TV and rescue you. This is reality and we have to be responsible for our own lives. So what exactly is Domestic Violence and why is it such a stigma in society?
Domestic violence (also called intimate partner violence (IPV), domestic abuse or relationship abuse) is a pattern of behaviors used by one partner to maintain power and control over another partner in an intimate relationship.
Domestic violence does not discriminate. Anyone of any race, age, sexual orientation, religion or gender can be a victim – or perpetrator – of domestic violence. It can happen to people who are married, living together or who are dating. It affects people of all socioeconomic backgrounds and education levels.
That’s the FIRST thing you need to do, make the choice to leave that environment because you want a better life and a better chance at being a productive member of society, with something to offer the world instead of being a victim of domestic violence and abuse. Once you make that most important decision you will notice that you start to feel better about carrying out your plan to succeed in life no matter what odds are stacked against you, whether it be financial, health, legal issues that you can be provided assistance with, you can do this when you make your mind up. Too many times we are made to believe we will never survive without our abusers, or we will never have anyone to care for us the way they did, manipulation is a tool they use to trick you into feeling trapped so they can continue the abuse and not allow you to break the cycle. There are so many people and agencies who are begging to provide you with a healthy safe and sober environment and lifestyle. Its ok to be afraid, just remember not to allow fear to control or direct your plans of getting a better shot at being free from abuse.
I’ve provided some information and services for you or someone you know to get help from the National Domestic Violence Hotline
Domestic violence includes behaviors that physically harm, arouse fear, prevent a partner from doing what they wish or force them to behave in ways they do not want. It includes the use of physical and sexual violence, threats and intimidation, emotional abuse and economic deprivation. Many of these different forms of domestic violence/abuse can be occurring at any one time within the same intimate relationship.